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A Wife After God's Own Heart

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A Wife After God's Own Heart reveals how you can have what every married woman desires--a wonderful marriage filled with mutual love, friendship, romance, and joy. No matter what the state or season of your marriage, this book is for you. Join bestselling author Elizabeth George as she shares the keys to having a great marriage, including. communicating to your husband more effectively understanding how to best support your man having more fun as a couple enhancing or rekindling marital intimacy honoring God together in your relationship

When it comes to making a marriage the best it can be, you'll find this book a practical help--including the many "Little Things That Make a Big Difference" in every chapter Start now on the path to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship. Includes study guide.

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  • SKU: 9780736911672
  • SKU10: 0736911677
  • Title: A Wife After God's Own Heart
  • Qty Remaining Online: 12
  • Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
  • Date Published: Jan 2004
  • Pages: 219
  • Weight lbs: 0.50
  • Dimensions: 8.60" L x 5.60" W x 0.60" H
  • Features: Table of Contents, Price on Product, Bibliography
  • Themes: Theometrics | Evangelical; Sex & Gender | Feminine; Topical | Family;
  • Awards: 2005 Christian Retailing's Best (Finalist - Women's Nonfiction)
    2005 Retailers' Choice (Finalist - Women's Nonfiction)
  • Category: LOVE & MARRIAGE
  • Subject: Christian Life - Women's Issues
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Excerpt

Growing in the Lord

Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness,
and all these things shall be added to you.

MATTHEW 6:33

 

Whenever I think about the first 30 years of my life, I automatically think, That’s when I did everything wrong!

Why would I say this?

Because, my new reading friend, that’s when there was no rhyme or reason for my life. That’s when there were no guidelines for my life, no instructions for how to live my life. That’s when I wanted what I wanted and did things my way. In short, that’s when I did not have a relationship with God…which is why I am choosing to begin our book here, with God as the Number One way to make a difference in your life and in your marriage.

And what was it that I wanted for those three difficult decades? I wanted a lot of things, and most of them were things that every person wants. My personal “I Want” list included happiness, fulfillment, a life of meaning and contribution. I don’t remember wanting fame or fortune, or to climb any corporate ladders or shatter any glass ceilings. No, I wanted what I’m sure you also want—a life that matters and counts. I dreamed of a life of joy and graciousness. And thrown into my dreams was, of course, a happy marriage that was satisfying and exciting.

I did marry at age 20, as I was beginning my senior year of college. Jim was 22 and entering his senior and fifth year in pharmacy school. There was the usual stir and flutter and frenzy of emotions that accompanies every new budding love relationship. Ours was truly love at first sight as we passed and smiled at each other regularly on our way to and from classes. Then came the “blind date” in November…with a proposal for marriage on Valentine’s Day…and the wedding on June 1. Wow, what a whirlwind of excitement!

Things went well for a while. And then… Well, both Jim and I would tell you that after eight years, things became awfully empty and got pretty rocky, even after two children were added to the makeup of the George family.

Then a “miracle” occurred, and we became a Christian family. By God’s grace, our hearts were opened to the truth of Christ…and by God’s grace, we responded to that truth. And, beloved, that has made all the difference in the world! Things have never been the same. Before becoming Christians, we were like a couple with a great car…only we had no key. We couldn’t get the car started. We couldn’t make it work. We couldn’t use it. We couldn’t go anywhere.

My friend, a relationship with God is the key, the key to all of life, including your marriage. And that’s what this chapter is all about—growing in the Lord. And that means learning what God, the Creator of all things and of marriage, has to say. You see, God and God alone possesses the instruction book for your marriage, and He’s made it available to you. He knows what makes a marriage work. And He’s written His divine guidelines right in the Bible. We’ll look at what God has to say to you and me as wives in the chapters to come, but for now, let’s see why it’s important for you as a wife to grow in the Lord.

First Things First

I've chosen as our theme verse for this chapter a beloved favorite of many Christians. They are the words—and the heart!—of Jesus. They were spoken to His disciples and His followers. And they address the concerns of daily life. After telling His listeners not to worry, Jesus said they should instead “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you” (Matthew 6:33).

Now, how does Jesus’ teaching apply to you and me as wives? Well, married or single, every Christian is to put first things first. Every Christian is to seek the Lord first and foremost. God expects every Christian to grow. For instance…

·        The apostle Peter wrote that we are to “grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ” (2 Peter 3:18).

  • He also urged you and me to, “as newborn babes, desire the pure milk of the word, that you may grow thereby” (1 Peter 2:2).
  • And the writer of Hebrews, in Chapter 5, chastised his readers with this scathing rebuke: “By this time you ought to be teachers, [but] you need someone to teach you again the first principles of the oracles of God; and you have come to need milk and not solid food. For everyone who partakes only of milk…is a babe” (verses 12-13). In other words, these people had not grown.

So how do we grow in the Lord? Answer: By putting God first. That’s how spiritual growth occurs. And the most tried-and-true way to put God first is to read His Word, the Bible, and obey it. I like to think of spiritual growth as a three-step process. Keep in mind as you note them that all three steps are absolutely necessary to grow in the Lord. There are no shortcuts to spiritual growth.

Step #1— Discoverthrough reading the Bible what God says about your life and how He wants you to live it. How is this done? By listening to God’s heart through His Word. By reading and paying attention to the teachings in the Bible. By learning more about Him and His standards for righteousness.

Step #2— Discernthrough studying the Bible the meaning and implications of what you are reading. This is the point where you pray and seek to understand what God has said in the Bible.

Step #3— Do through heartfelt obedience what you have read and learned, discovered and discerned. This is the step where you do something about what you now know to be the will of God. This is where you put your knowledge into action in your life.

How’s Your Heart?

Now, here’s a question for you: How’s your heart? Is your heart strong in faith…or weak? Is it a hot heart…or perhaps one that’s losing its fire? A woman—and a wife— after God’s own heart is someone who follows hard after Him and close behind Him (see Psalm 63:8). Therefore prayer and awareness of weak—or sinful—areas in your walk with God can be the beginning of even greater growth. God desires that we develop spiritual muscle so we are strong enough to stand against the powers of this world and to resist its pressures. God asks that you and I “do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2).

God desires that we develop spiritual muscle
so we are strong enough to be His kind of wife.

Here’s another question for you: Are you satisfied with your current condition, spiritual maturity, and rate of growth? If so, you will grow no more. However, if there is a holy desire to grow in the Lord, to know God in a deeper, more intimate way, to be a woman after His heart, to strive toward His standards, to please Him, to be more Christlike, to identify, attack, and triumph over ungodly conduct and practices…then yours is the soft, responsive-to-God heart that will grow in the Lord.

Deciding to Grow

I’m sure you are as busy as I am. Honestly, every morning when I wake up, I wonder if I am going to make it through the day in front of me—if I’m going to get everything done, if I’ll have the time and energy it will require to take care of my responsibilities at home and to others. Then one day it hit me that I sit in the driver’s seat concerning most of the structure of my every day, including growing in the Lord. I decide whether the things of the Lord are really that important to me…or not. I decide whether I will make the effort to grow…or not. I decide whether I will schedule in the time it takes to grow, to meet with God regularly, to stop, look, and listen to Him by reading my Bible…or not.

The most important thing you must decide to do
each and every day as a wife is to put the Lord first.

So, dear one, as you can see, you and I are our own best ally…or our worst enemy, depending upon our choices concerning spiritual growth. I remember the day some months after becoming a Christian that I wrote an impassioned letter to God about the issues in my life at that time. It was sort of my covenant with Him to seek to grow—my commitment to grow in Him. It expressed the desires of my heart to mature as a Christian, along with my dreams of honoring and serving Him. I included the issues and areas in my life as a wife and mother that definitely fell under the “Needs Improvement” column. And I included the practices in my life that I labeled “Sin Areas,” purposing to be done with them. I prayed on paper that God, through His great grace, would come to my aid and sustain my deepest desires to grow.

I saved the spiral stenographer’s pad where I wrote my “Letter of Commitment” to God those many years ago. It has aged (about 30 years worth!), and how I thank God it was written in ink and not pencil! And now I want to ask two things of you. First, realize that this is the commitment section of this chapter. A section like this will occur throughout the book that asks you (and me!) to determine to grow, to determine to move out, to determine to take action, to determine to do the “putting off and putting on” of the practices and attitudes God calls us to, to determine to pay the price to follow after God—to put Him first, whatever that cost may be and however high it may soar, no matter what. I know my heart is racing right this minute as I’m writing about the most important thing you and I must decide to do each and every day of our lives—to put first things first and make the choices that can help us grow in the Lord.

Second, I want you to write out in your own way, in your own words, and from your own heart, your personal commitment to God. Make a commitment—a decision—and determine to grow into the woman—and wife—you yearn to be—a woman after God’s own heart, one who will do all His will (Acts 13:22). You’ll be glad you did! And by the way, save it in a special place and read it often.

Tending Your Growth

Just as any skill or talent requires careful attention, so does your precious, priceless spiritual growth. What will it require?

Spiritual growth results from discipline. Winning a race requires purpose and discipline. Paul uses this illustration to explain that the Christian life takes hard work, self-denial, and grueling preparation. As Christians, we are running toward our heavenly reward. The essential disciplines of prayer, Bible study, and worship equip us to run with vigor and stamina. Don’t merely observe from the grandstand; don’t just turn out to jog a couple of laps each morning. Train diligently—your spiritual progress depends upon it.

Spiritual growth results from self-denial. At times we must give up something good in order to do what God wants. Each person’s special duties determine the discipline and denial that he or she must accept. Without a goal, discipline is nothing but self-punishment. With the goal of pleasing God, our denial seems like nothing compared to the eternal, imperishable reward that will be ours.

My dear friend, your “special duties” as a wife definitely require discipline and denial. And your reward for faithfully tending your growth? How about a gentle and quiet spirit that is precious in God’s sight (1 Peter 3:4)? How about bringing honor to God as you live out His Word and His will for wives (see Titus 2:5)?

Reaping God’s Blessings

Oops! I almost got ahead of myself. This is the blessingssection, but I just had to mention those two spiritual growth truths. But let’s go on and count—and consider—a few more blessings you will reap as you grow in the Lord. As you tend to your growth you’ll find…

Your behavior changes. How? You will take on more of the character of Christ. You’ll become more Christlike as God’s Word and your walk of obedience work together to conform you to His image (Romans 8:29). In short, your life will be changed.

Your relationship with your husband changes. (And, by the way, this goes for your relationships with all people!) As your behavior changes (for the better, of course), and as you put more and more godly practices into place and heed more and more of God’s commands, and as you grow in the Lord, you’ll be a better wife. You’ll manifest more of God’s love, peace, patience, kindness, and goodness. You’ll display more of a spirit of meekness and gentleness, not to mention greater self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). Now I ask you, why wouldn’t these spiritual changes make a difference and bless you and others, beginning with your closest, most intimate relationship— your husband? They do…and they will!

And think of the difference such glorious changes will make in your dear husband’s life. He’ll be more relaxed… instead of waiting for the next blow-up or attack. He’ll be more comfortable with you, knowing the two of you can communicate peacefully. He’ll be more appreciative of you as a wife as he senses your heartfelt concern and support of his endeavors. He might even talk to you more often and about deeper subjects (like the issues and challenges on his job), knowing he has a tender, sensitive, sympathetic, and wise listener to share them with, knowing he has a wife who will pray for him.

You are blessed. Growth is definitely rewarding. You’ll experience unspeakable rewards as you surprise yourself by the way you handle life’s challenges and difficulties, as you marvel at your peace of mind, as you (miracle of miracles!) hear yourself speaking with wisdom and expressing comfort and encouragement to your dear husband. Oh, you will most definitely be blessed! And when the rewards and blessings tumble in, there is only one response to make and one person to thank—and that is the response of thanksgiving and gratitude to God for His marvelous grace!

Heart Response

On one very special evening, Jim and I had the opportunity to dine with the founder of Harvest House Publishers.

As we asked questions of this legendary man and he shared openly, he made a statement I’ll never forget. He said, “Three words will sell a book— simple, love, and home.

My precious reading friend, I’m not selling anything, but here’s how I’m thinking after reading what I’ve shared in this opening chapter. Growing in the Lord is simple! There is nothing new or earth-shattering here. Life-changing, yes, but you probably already know these simple (there’s that word again!), foundational guidelines to spiritual growth. Like the cookbooks I received at my bridal shower, they were simple, basic, fundamental—the first-steps and the how-tos of cooking. As simple as simple can be. Aren’t you thankful that God keeps it simple when it comes to such a mystical, mysterious element as spiritual growth? We only need to know what God says is the basic recipe for being a woman and a wife after His own heart…and to faithfully follow His recipe. That’s what “great creations” are made up of. And I’m praying that you and I will become just such creations as we faithfully follow these very few-but-simple steps for growing in the Lord!

 

Little Things That Make a Big Difference

1. Read your Bible every day.

Keep in mind that something is better than nothing, so aim for at least five minutes a day of Bible reading. That’s about how long it takes to read one chapter in your Bible. Because of the subject matter of this book, and especially that of the next chapter, I suggest this schedule for your first five days:

Day 1 . . . . . . Genesis 1
Day 2 . . . . . . Genesis 2
Day 3 . . . . . . Genesis 3
Day 4 . . . . . . Ephesians 5
Day 5 . . . . . . Colossians 3

Then go back and begin at Genesis 4 and finish the book of Genesis one day at a time, one chapter at a time.

2. Pray for your husband three times every day.

Pray before he wakes up, at noon, and right before he comes home from work. Of course it will be easy to repeat this exercise every day for a week. Then, of course, you’ll want to do it for life!

3. Plan to go to church this week.

Whether you are a little rusty on your church attendance, haven’t been going at all, or don’t know where to go, planning to attend this week will set your personal church wheels in motion. Place this all-important “date” on your calendar. Then make any necessary phone calls to neighborhood churches or friends to find out where to go, the exact times of the weekly services, and any other information you might need regarding a couples’ class or a program for your children. Then begin the night before to get your act together—lay out your Bible, organize for a no-hassle breakfast, and get to bed a little early.

It’s important that you talk to your husband about your desire to go to church. Ask him if he would like to go along with you and see what it’s like. Tell him you value his opinions. Also share the information you’ve gathered and ask for his input. If he doesn’t want to go to church with you, that’s okay. Your assignment is to be friendly, excited, and to make a move in the direction of attending church yourself. God’s job is to work on your husband’s heart. And, of course, you’ll be praying for him!

4. Sign up for a Bible class or Bible study.

I know you’re busy, but you should never be too busy to take care of your spiritual growth. This “little” exercise may require making a few phone calls, but it will be worth it when you experience the exhilarating joy of growing in the Lord, which is the most important way to make a big difference in your life and your marriage!

5. Purchase or borrow a Christian book on any topic.

Ask your friends and other Christians for their favorite Christian book titles. You can’t buy every book, but you can create a list to remind you which ones to purchase in the future. And don’t forget to make good use of your church library. It’s been said that “by spending 15 minutes a day you can read 25 books in a year.” Now, can’t you scrape up 15 minutes today…and every day? As you learn from authors and teachers and scholars who share their knowledge and their passion for God and His Son, you, too, will grow in knowledge!

6. Write a letter of commitment to God.

On paper, pour out your desire to grow spiritually. It will only take you about five minutes…but those few minutes could set in motion the direction for the rest of your life!


Excerpted from A Wife After God’s Own Heart By Elizabeth George. Copyright © 2004 by Harvest House Publishers. Excerpted by permission. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

 

 

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