What is sexy? Are you? Do you wanna be? Should you be sexy? And ultimately what is the goal of being sexy?
On my first day of first grade, my mom let me pick out my outfit. It was the end of summer, so I had all these cute summer clothes that I still loved. I chose a cool little outfit that was made of a little bitty skirt and a top that was really short, like a bathing suit top. I was only five, remember, so all I thought about was how much I liked that outfit. I was a clotheshorse even then.
Well, when I got to school and got into my classroom, a memory became forever etched in my head. My teacher took me aside and told me to go to the principal’s office. I was improperly dressed, and my mom needed to come get me. I remember being completely embarrassed. Would I forever be the outsider now that I had made the fatal mistake of misdressing? I mean, I was five, how was I to know what was appropriate for school and what wasn’t? My sole goal was to wear my favorite outfit, and so that’s what I did, without having a clue that it was inappropriate for school Ah, the tragedy of youth!
Things didn’t get much better from there. My sophomore year in high school, I decided that it was time for a change. Up until then I was the nerd. I wore two long, blond pigtails every day. And I only wore pink. Every single day of my life, only pink. But my sophomore year I got tired of being the fluffy pink geek, so I went for a more sexy look. I wasn’t trying to be a sex queen or anything. I just wanted to be cute and to be thought of as hip. So I hit the stores running.
My mom gave me $400 to revamp my wardrobe, and that’s what I did. I remember the first day of school that sophomore year-suddenly all the guys were looking at me. They had never looked at me before. I was suddenly in, or so I thought. I was now the hip dresser. Styles were different then, of course, but they were still designed to make girls sexy. And so I became, without giving much thought to the ramifications, a sexy girl. I started on a kind of campaign to remake my image, but the trouble was that I didn’t really realize what I was now advertising. My newfound sexiness did get the attention of many a boy, but then what? I didn’t know what to do with it. So I got labeled a tease (more on that later). I had advertised something I couldn’t deliver. Trouble was, no one explained sexiness to me. I had no idea what it was doing to the guys in my rearview mirror. I didn’t know the message I was sending. Let’s face it, I was clueless when it came to sexy.
In Hollywood every starlet knows you have to have an image consultant. You have to hire someone who will help you craft an image that you want the rest of the world to buy. You want the world to get who you are as a star by how you dress, where you go, and who you are seen with. An image consultant, together with a PR agent, is the starlet’s best friend.
But starlets aren’t the only ones who have an image to sell. Every day, whether you know it or not, you put together your own PR package. You decide every morning what image you want the rest of the world to see in you. You say to yourself, Fancy or casual? Sporty or revealing? You make choices that define your image. Everyone has one-an image, that is. And if you don’t get it yet, think about it like this.
Think about all your friends, enemies, acquaintances. Think about all the girls you know, and then start to think about what image they project. Your image is what other people think about you when you aren’t around. It’s that impression you leave them with when you walk out of the room. And everyone has one. Whether you show up buttoned up and covered up or looking like you just jumped into the laundry basket and came out all dressed, you project an image that other people are picking up on. Like most people, you probably don’t have the benefit of a full-time image consultant, but hold on, because Sexy Girls is comin’ to the rescue! I want to help you figure out your image-who you are, who you want to be, and who you want others to think you are. After that we’ll craft a look that will present you to the rest of the world just the way you want to be presented. Your PR agent will be yourself. No exorbitant fees! No kissing up to you because you’re loaded! Just a great PR package that will help you define who you are and how you want others to respond to you.
See, it’s all about marketing. Just like Sprite or A&F have a certain image that they want their target market to get, so each one of us has an image we want our target market to get. For most of you, your target is the male population at your school. Maybe when you were younger, your target audience was your best friends. Either way, every day when you get dressed, you create an image and marketing campaign that tells your target market what they get when they “get” you. Are you hot, sassy, playful, exciting, shy, seductive, or athletic? As I’ve said, you’ve probably never really thought about this accidental marketing, but you do it. So why not take charge of your marketing campaign and make it what you want it to be and not some big accident-or one waiting to happen? Let’s start off with a little image consulting. This is the prep work we need to do before we dive into “what sexy really is” and how we manage our own sexiness.
Before we get started, let’s define your current image. What do you say to the rest of the world, either intentionally or accidentally, by the way you dress? This is the fun part!
Now ask yourself a few questions before we dive into the total image analysis (and maybe even makeover) that you might be screaming for right now. Sexy Girls is your chance to figure out who you want the rest of the world to see and then to figure out how to create that image. You aren’t at the mercy of anyone when it comes to your image. You might need to give it a little creativity and energy, but you can make an image that you’ll be proud of and that will really portray who you are. So before we dive into what’s sexy and what’s not, let’s have a look at you.
First, pick three adjectives that describe who you are and who you want others to see in you:
Hard to Get
Okay, now let’s look at your style. Do you want to be (circle up to three):
When it comes to what people see, do they think of you as (circle one from each line):
Experimental or Conservative
Worldly or Innocent
Traditional or Daring
Romantic or Purely Physical
When it comes to your spiritual life, do you want to be thought of as (circle one from each line):
Spiritual or Nonspiritual
Godly or Worldly
Open-Minded or Traditional
When it comes to your social life, are you more likely to:
Stay up late with friends or stay up late with your books
Date around or Date one guy exclusively
Sneak out of the house late or Go to bed early
If you could have the life of any starlet, who would it be?
You might be wondering why all the self-analysis, but I’m not going to tell you just yet. You’ll refer back to this section later on in the book. So for now, good work. Hope you were honest, because it’s really hard to create an image that fits if you are lying to yourself about who you are.
QUIZ – HOW SEXY ARE YOU?
1.Most of my tops don’t come all the way to my pants.
2.I think it’s okay to show a little bit of my stomach.
3.I don’t have any tops that show my cleavage.
4.I have at least one body piercing.
5.I think tattoos are cute and sexy.
6.I dress in what I think is cute. My goal isn’t to get the attention of guys.
7.I like it when guys look at my chest.
8.My parents keep telling me I dress too sexy.
9.I try to buy tops that aren’t too revealing.
10.I think it’s hard to find clothes that aren’t too sexy.
1. True = 2, False = 1
2 True = 2, False = 1
3. True = 1, False = 2
4. True = 2, False = 1
5. True = 2, False = 1
6. True = 1, False = 2
7. True = 2, False = 1
8. True = 2, False = 1
9. True = 1, False = 2
10. True = 1, False = 2
20-17: You’re Hot. And everyone knows it! You definitely have a sexy edge about you. You might not be aware of it, but you are turning on guys right and left. Read on and find out who. You might just start to rethink things.
16-14 Sexy Sometimes. I bet you turn a few heads some of the time. It’s not ‘cuz you’re having a good hair day. They like looking at the body you’ve got showing. If you don’t realize how your sex appeal is affecting guys, you soon will.
13-10: Can Anyone Say Cute? You think carefully about how you look and care what guys are thinking about your body. It looks like you’ve learned the power of your flesh and are using it wisely. Well done.